It comes as such an enormous relief to fully realise that the very best way to help someone is to help myself. I can never solve another's problems for them. How could I? That is their task and theirs alone.

As much as we love and care for our children, for instance, and feel so responsible for them, there comes a time when we have to cut that emotional cord, as they do also with us, and trust that they will swim free into their own ocean where they belong. What use would it be to your child if you did not sever the umbilical cord?

Be there primarily for yourself, and life will pick up your loved ones. Our lives belong to us as individuals, not to each other. The more I can be tuned in to my own life's essence, and the closer I can connect with true Spirit, the more effective my intention and desire for healing for my loved ones can be. As we move on in our own spiritual path, those connected with us will be also have to move and adjust accordingly. This is natural law.  "Seek ye first..." and all that. Take the plank out of my own eye...